For me motivation is an inner engine that doesn’t let me procrastinate. I have a strong work ethic and want to get things done before I play. My mode of operation is to get job-related activities and chores done first and then reward myself with free time to relax and read.
This is good in that I get things done and have completed numerous manuscripts as a writer because of it. The problem is that sometimes I don’t get to the relaxing part. The other issue is that I get compulsive. My project-orientation gets carried away and I find myself “doing” more than “being.”
But I do procrastinate about things that involve confrontation. After awhile though, my inner engine keeps reminding me to resolve the outstanding issue, so reluctantly I get up the courage to take care of what I need to do. I also procrastinate about things I don’t feel competent in doing, like fixing the sprinklers and other plumbing projects.
So what motivates me? First, to take care of my responsibilities. Once I accept a responsibility, I want to complete it and not leave it hanging. Second, to do a good job. I take pride in my accomplishments and want to make a positive contribution. Third, getting pushed around by “shoulds.” I should be a good writer, husband, father, grandfather. Fourth, fear that I don’t want to look incompetent. So a mix of positive and negative motivation.
I can be very disciplined in carrying out my responsibilities. I regularly exercise, take care of my writing projects and follow though on my commitments.
For me the challenge is to draw the line between discipline and compulsiveness. My discipline can get consumed in preparing for the future rather than living the moment. I run the risk of losing sight of the people when focused on my projects.
In the busy-i-ness of daily activity, I need to learn to stop, take a deep breath and notice the beauty and life around me.
Learn from the past.
Plan for the future.
Live the present.